THE DUMP OF JOEY ARNOLD, THE ORIGINAL OATMEAL: Your Son Is An Animal

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Your Son Is An Animal

Dương Phương Thảo

Conversation started March 25
7:44am

Dương Phương Thảo

Today Joey hit me , he slap me and he try yo kill me , because i asking bad about his father because i see some thing in the facebook
My morther and my brother want he leave my house after one week
Because they scare some day he can kill me when we live alone without my family
I should tell you first
Can you messenger for him - and give some money for him to come back American and live with you
He will have 1000$ after this month
He hear Joey said He just listen to you and love only you in his house
That's why i just can talking with you
+8401634251695
This is handphone of Joey in VietNam just can wrote the messenger because the cell phone wrong the way the call.
I hope you can write msm for him and talk him : You should come back to America and find another girl friend
If Joey can't come to the facebook - because he broken his computer.
And i really scare to talking with him
Yesterday , he like a evil , he hurt me , so bad.
March 25
12:36pm

Marilyn Mitchell

TELL ME WHAT HE DID

I thought he had a contract to work for 6 months.

I shoulod call the number and send a text message??

I will try that.

i called the phone number you gave me and heard "this call cannot be completed as dialed, please check the number and dial again"

Joey's father gave me so much trouble that I decided to leave him. (of course, he also begged me to divorce him, also). I believe Joey understands how to treat his father as another American son would do in our culture.

His Dad is an alcoholic and was nice to me except when he drank whiskey or tequila.

I'm hoping Joey can learn his lessons in VietNam. I think he could learn better there on his own.
12:53pm

Dương Phương Thảo

I have a trouble with Joey - he make a girl in the officer he work hate him
two girl
one girl he live in her house and don't give the gilf for her family before he leave , and she on the way to help him in the contract
But because his fault - she delete try to help him
and the other girl is his boss - and she is friend of the first girl i talk before
the first girl give his boss my cell phone number
that's why i on the way to go in crazy because the boss always call me tell bad about him
12:54pm

Dương Phương Thảo

this problem is
12:54pm

Marilyn Mitchell

oh, my. I wish I could talk to him on the phone.
12:55pm

Dương Phương Thảo

Joey have a skype

it better in the internet
12:55pm

Marilyn Mitchell

i haven't figured out how to skype yet.
12:55pm

Dương Phương Thảo

my morther saw him hit me and she don't like that
12:56pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I am trying to write to him now. I hope he answers me.
1:11pm

Dương Phương Thảo

some time he lost control because he tired - that's time we begin to yelling
and i lost my control because him too
the boss always call for me , talking about him , and him said it's not my bussiness and her bussiness too
i scare if we end relationship the boss will din't understand why she can not call me , she can be fired Joey by another reason she don't like it
because the boss hate him , i said : did we have to gilf some thing for her to her love you again
and Joey said : I don't want to do that . in my life , i never gilf for any person
I don't know him said the true or him just kidding about that - i just meet him one month
1:14pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I will try to find out. I don't understand your "did we have to dilf something for her to her love you again". then maybe i would understand what Joey is saying. maybe this is a cultural difference.
1:16pm

Dương Phương Thảo

yes - is a cultural difference
1:17pm

Marilyn Mitchell

maybe he needs to try to understand your customs,but remember that you can't expect him to always know what you are thinking.
1:26pm

Dương Phương Thảo

uhm . may be i will try to help him again
for one week he still in my house
after that - the boss talk to me , about "he should rent another house neer his work , my house is so far"
i think the cultural difference is very bad
special the language - some word in American coutry i really don't understand - just waitng to check google translate and watch what you talking with Joey in the facebook
it's hard for me to still in love with him
i really don't know why - he hate all my country food - my morther and me really hard to feed him
He lost his healthy some time about it
1:28pm

Marilyn Mitchell

Joey claims that he did not hit you.
1:29pm

Dương Phương Thảo

he just put me down and slap me still the time i not yelling
and he call this the way he love me , it's not about hit
1:30pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I don't understand it either.
1:31pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i call his father is bad - because he canot control his girl friend to let her his Joey

hit Joey

and he sad : Just he can talk like that , he don't want me call
1:32pm

Marilyn Mitchell

yes, I was quite upset at what girlfriend did to Joey. He did scold her a lot after that and she dropped most of the charges. that is what really happened.

Joey says you bit his arm and made it bleed.
1:36pm

Dương Phương Thảo

some time i do this when i can feel good when i having sex with Joey - some time we like a children - always yelling and attack - do you think i should stop in realtionship with Joey
1:36pm

Marilyn Mitchell

you need to stop having sex with him.

Joey did not give the boss your phone number.
1:38pm

Dương Phương Thảo

Yes - i will remember you

Tram (the girl cath Joey to her house in consuffing give)

cultural different

her familly talking bad about Joey selfish , don't give them any gilf before Joey leave to my hometown , he said to me : Just 1$ and Joey don't want to do that
1:40pm

Marilyn Mitchell

who is Tram??
1:42pm

Dương Phương Thảo

Tram is Hny Pham (another girl post in Original facebook) - but she deleted friend Joey now - still the time i let him get out her house
1:43pm

Marilyn Mitchell

Joey's Dad started throwing things at me. He stopped paying the rent. He came home very late and wouldn't let me sleep. and I couldn't get a job to pay the bills.
1:49pm

Marilyn Mitchell

Joey believes that he is not required to buy the cards that his boss asked him to pay for. He says he only must fullfill the contract which he signed.
1:51pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i don't know about it before - but this time , i thinks Joey will have another gen of his father.
he said he very look like his father
1:51pm

Marilyn Mitchell

he does look like his father, that is true
1:51pm

Dương Phương Thảo

uhm , the boss (Ms Thu) is a mean girl , very hard to talking with

she talking me : because Joey is the forgein people , she belive him still have a little money

and this money will be in his salary
1:54pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I know that people think that Americans have a lot of money, but really many of us don't. I don't have a savings account and we owe thousands of dollars on our credit cards.

Joey wants to help you, your personality is not stable.

It seems that you got upset a lot since your father died.
1:58pm

Dương Phương Thảo

yes - i'm have to come to the mental hospital a time before - to thinking die is died
1:58pm

Marilyn Mitchell

does your mother ever hit you??

I want you to get well.
2:00pm

Dương Phương Thảo

my morther still hit me and my younger sister event still we grow up - but she hit me more - because i still not have job , and i close her than
2:00pm

Marilyn Mitchell

this is very sad.
2:00pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i think Joey is in the Internet shop and chatting with you

can you talking to him " now morther know this , you should get job now , because you will late at 2h30 PM
2:02pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I have been talking to him.
2:03pm

Dương Phương Thảo

thanks you so much
2:04pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I am trying. but you need to be willing to get well. your thinking needs some help sometimes.
2:05pm

Dương Phương Thảo

can you asking him : Do you want Kathy come to internet shop and take you to school?
2:06pm

Marilyn Mitchell

do you drive Joey to work?
2:06pm

Dương Phương Thảo

is will help me and him to finish his work and don't let his boss to call me any more

normal , i on the way have to
2:07pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I will never hit Joey. I will only be nice to him.
2:07pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i belive he is on the way walking to work , because he leave my house very soon

and he can chatting with you in his computer with my house wifi
2:08pm

Marilyn Mitchell

ok

why did you steal his bike and sell it??
2:10pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i take the money back to him for learn Vietnamese language , to help him understand what the children said when he in class
2:10pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I will ask him about that.
2:11pm

Dương Phương Thảo

haizz - i really don't want he lost job

can we chat latter

i should come to the internet coffee and catch him
2:12pm

Marilyn Mitchell

late is ok. it is midnight here at the moment.
2:12pm

Dương Phương Thảo

even my body special my facebook still hurt

ok
2:15pm

Marilyn Mitchell

you don't take away a man's bike. that is a very special thing for him to own
2:20pm

Dương Phương Thảo

said with him - if he want to , i will ask my morther take back this electric bike for him , it i can do to help him to leave my house rent another house close his work to get job
my morther still have enough money to for our wedding , but when she saw he hit me , she think back.
2:21pm

Marilyn Mitchell

he says he didn't hit you.

He should get his bike back anyway.
2:22pm

Dương Phương Thảo

how can i talk back with my morther - now she know
2:22pm

Marilyn Mitchell

He wants to help you. He wants you to be happy.

I don't know how to deal with your mother.
2:23pm

Dương Phương Thảo

me too
2:23pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I wish you and Joey could both get to a safe place and not have anyone hit you.
2:23pm

Dương Phương Thảo

do you want i catch Joey to go to school right now
2:23pm

Marilyn Mitchell

unemployment is very high where I live.

no. just let him go to the school.

what do you mean by "catch"

I thought he was already at the school by now.
2:24pm

Dương Phương Thảo

take
2:25pm

Marilyn Mitchell

could he get there another way, or is he waiting for you??
2:25pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i really don't know it
2:26pm

Marilyn Mitchell

his last message to me was 20 minutes ago.

how far away is the school?
2:28pm

Dương Phương Thảo

30 minutes
2:28pm

Marilyn Mitchell

could he have had time to walk there??

or could he take a bus?
2:30pm

Dương Phương Thảo

can you said with Joey never hurt me again?

i call for him . but his cell phone have some mistake
2:31pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I wonder what happened to the phone.

Joey said he didn't hit you. I have tried to train him well.
2:32pm

Dương Phương Thảo

did he still online ?

i don't really know this "train" work
2:33pm

Marilyn Mitchell

he has not been online since 12:08 my time, now it is 12:32pm

24 minutes since he answered me.
2:34pm

Dương Phương Thảo

ok

but i think he will missing today

is very hard to find the stress in Ho Chi Minh city
2:35pm

Marilyn Mitchell

where would he be now, then?
2:36pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i call for him , and cell phone mistake , i just hear him said back , but i can't talk anything

him not reply my messenger
2:36pm

Marilyn Mitchell

I think he is at the school already, I think he messaged me from there.
2:37pm

Dương Phương Thảo

i hope him can wrote another Vietnames language when online in google
2:37pm

Marilyn Mitchell

you heard him talking on his phone, but he could not hear you?
2:37pm

Dương Phương Thảo

yes

he call me , and me can not hear him ether
2:38pm

Marilyn Mitchell

maybe something happened to your phone

I told him you couldn't hear him, he will get the message sometime soon.
3:48pm

Dương Phương Thảo

Some time i really don't know what Joey want to do , special about the bicycle - some time i think him like a fanatics

i talk to him , don't buy the bicycle - by the motorbicycle - i live in this city - i know it's hard to use the bicycle in your job

it's far - and it's too hot weather - you will lose all your enegy before you coming the class

but he don't want listern to me , he said :"I want to save the world far form Cacbonic Co2)

it's a different thinking with me and Joey and may be it's a cultural different

example is our food

Joey don't like the food in VietNam

he said he just like the American food - and you know - a price is diffenrent

some time he use food in Vietnam with me , i'm ok , but he's sick . he vomit

American food in VietName is expensive and hard to find than American food in American

and JOB too

if Joey lost this Joey in this time - now they easy because they not enough people to in class

but i know if want to teach English in Vietnam , Joey have to finish the University , and have a lisence like TESOL and CELTA

and Joey just finish the Collage - it's very hard to keep that

the boss always hard with us - and Joey always try to hide beside me

because he don't really nice can talking with the girl

so

i really hope you can talking and change the thinking of Joey - to come back America - the place he easy find a new job - fresh food - and good weather

i and my morther try to said with Joey : Do you want to come back American . my morther said that , because American Embassy can help a American people didn't have enough money to come back America
4:18pm

Dương Phương Thảo

when i wrot this letter for you - i have a messenger of Joey to my cell phone , he on the way walking to job

and after come to University to learning Vietnamese - it's far my home 1 hour motorbycle - and 2:40 hour go to work

go to walk

he scare about you love his brother than you love him , because he really to need your love
March 26
11:26pm

Marilyn Mitchell

Joey has my love. Joey should be allowed to stay in VietNam. He looked for a job for years when he was here.
it rains all year long here. it is cold in the winter. I where a coat almost every day. sometimes it is just as cold here as in southern Alaska!
I wanted him to take the class to get the certificate.
He said he didn't want the bike and couldn't explain why.
I didn't know it was so very hot there. thankyou for telling me.
I can try to ask him about the certificate and the hot weather.
I can ask him about the vomiting. I thought that only happened once and that he had "the flu:
March 26
6:54am

Marilyn Mitchell

Joey trusts me and discusses things with me, and I trust him to learn how to run his life correctly some how. He doesn't have to be in my house to be helped by me. It is better right now to have him be independent.

I just noticed that I spelled a word wrong in my previous message--"where" should be "wear". English is a problem for everyone, I think.
8:39am

Marilyn Mitchell

be nice to Joey.
He has talked to me for the last hour.
He really wants you to go to heaven with him and to have your family go there too.

Jesus Christ is the creator of the universe. He only wants what is best for us, but we must chose to follow Him.
March 28
2:44pm

Dương Phương Thảo

"Joey trusts me and discusses things with me, and I trust him to learn how to run his life correctly some how. He doesn't have to be in my house to be helped by me. It is better right now to have him be independent."
I think i really need you help Joey , but i just don't sure about what i thinking about real help or not
I'm not using English good too
Today , the Boss of Joey call for me , and talking about some mistake of him
Actually , it's make me crazy a little , because it's mean my boy friend is not a real men , may be they just think he a little boy or some thing like that
I scare Joey can't keep this Joey for along time , but actually it's not just my fault
The woman boss , she hate Joey
Because Joey always make her worried
Joey know that - but he don't want to make her feel good to keep save his job (this job is will be get 1000 USD for him just 1 month , is very amazing job)
The boss hate Joey because she is a close friend with Trâm , the girl host Joey in the coughsurfing , and Joey didn't help anything for her and her parent , that's why he have to leave her house and come to my house so fast.
I don't know how can i help Joey to make the girl love him
If i can't do that , and Joey think about he never have the girl in love with him is normal
Is mean he will lost his JOB
Can you teach him : how you have to do to make a girl like you!
Because i don't know why this time i up set about to much his girl friend he have to working
And some time i tell him the true , and he don't belive me
He said : because i love him so much? that's make me jealious about his girl friend , and he don't belive me , about this problem can make he lost job
3:03pm

Dương Phương Thảo

when i wrote this letter for you , Joey is better
he's not crazy like before , always want to have a electric motorbike in Vietnam to save the world
because i leave him to go job by walking , now he know how hard (to find a electric motorbike and in Vietnam we not sell that) and far (if he still want to go by electric bicycle)
tomorow i hope he can rent another motorbike and go job by him sell
like another normal forgein friends of him in the office
i hope he can be independent soon
because i'm just a normal people - that's some day i'm not really calm and helpfull to much
I'm sorry to make your son hurt , but i really mean to
March 28
1:11am

Marilyn Mitchell

he doesn't want to have people telling him what he has to do. He likes walking at the moment.
I'll ask him about Tram. I keep telling him that your culture is different. He says that a the definition of a gift is that it is "voluntary". He views the mandandory gift system as "bullying". he doesn't give in to a bully. he doesn't accept manipulation. We don't use so much peer pressure in the USA and it is hard for him to experience.
I have told him to be as nice to you as he possibly can. He says he is trying. He says you criticize too much.
His description of his job sounds good. I believe he is well-qualified for this type of job. We discussed how his childhood and his schooling has prepared him. He took care of children every summer for 5 years and had to find ways of motivating them. American children can be quite hard to handle.
my children were considered to be some of the best ones in the neighborhood because I required them to obey. when they were young the mothers would even ask me to send one of my kids to their house.
I didn't send Joey to public school until he was 15 years old. He has a good sense of who he is and how to think positively about himself. He didn't have to listen to adults trying to make him feel bad about what he couldn't do. That has freed him to be more creative and not worry about other people's opinions. That IS freedom and liberty. He can accept people's differences and have compassion for them and not make them all behave exactly the same in all situations.
1:13am

Marilyn Mitchell

I think our definition of a "man" is different here in the USA, than what you may be expecting.