I use this story as an illustration for others to learn from. It is not about the money. it is about honor. It is about doing the right things. Kathy may not know everything, but I did specifically tell Kathy not to sell my bike. Kathy knew better. I told her several times not to sell my bike. After that, I asked her many times for compensation. Kathy told me that she was going to compensate for the bike, and yet other times Kathy would come up with excuses or reasons or something to try to get out of her own promises of paying me back. I have seen Kathy confirm an understanding of what I was saying to her and of what I was requesting from her. I want her to remember that she knew better and that it seem that she wanted to compensate for the bike for me, unless if she was lying about it the whole time.
9ea30fee-adaa-11e3-a9b0-000f20980440March 17, 2014 at 3:29 AMhmm i understand where you are coming from. I liked when you stated, "However, communication is very important, especially since she should have known that I was from a different culture", a very valid point. however, that is also the problem with Kathy and any Vietnamese having been born and raised in Vietnam (or any other country for that matter): they do not understand that their culture is different from yours. she may have listened to American music, watched American movies, read American books, but there is no way she can comprehend our culture without actually LIVING in America. Between you and Kathy, you are the more worldly individual with unique perspectives on life in both Vietnam and America. She is living in Vietnam and has never seen any other kind of life, and assumed you would enjoy the culture of exchanging of services/things without a contract. i understand you are frustrated that she cannot realize this, but at the same time, you are the bigger man with more worldly knowledge. remember that you must "turn the other cheek", do not retaliate to her attack.ReplyDelete
Original OatmealMarch 18, 2014 at 4:30 AM
I use this story as an illustration for others to learn from. It is not about the money. it is about honor. It is about doing the right things. Kathy may not know everything, but I did specifically tell Kathy not to sell my bike. Kathy knew better. I told her several times not to sell my bike. After that, I asked her many times for compensation. Kathy told me that she was going to compensate for the bike, and yet other times Kathy would come up with excuses or reasons or something to try to get out of her own promises of paying me back. I have seen Kathy confirm an understanding of what I was saying to her and of what I was requesting from her. I want her to remember that she knew better and that it seem that she wanted to compensate for the bike for me, unless if she was lying about it the whole time.
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